I often feel it's harder than being a single mom because the false hope is just torture. Get her to explain what she believes, and how it might differ from her church. She might want to follow the 'virgin until marriage' part, or she may personally decide to forego following that in secret. It is also considered disrespectful to others, as they may be uncomfortable because of your open displays. I too married for love but there's no emotional energy, support or empathy left for the darling wife. And no I would not pressure them to convert but as a Latter-day Saint I would pray for them to convert as I do for many people I know and love.
I have two babies, 3 months and 3 years old and I believe they probably think my dr husband is an uncle or a distance relative bc their daddy was away for fellowship for over a yr and now away bc of his job. Do whatever it takes to at least learn from your relationship with your Mormon crush. It sounds like if we were to have a happy ending, it wouldn't be quite so happy because of how we raise our kids or how the rest of the family would treat me forever We'll discuss it again in more depth now that I have a few specific concerns about what our future together might look like. For the first time in my life, at age twenty-seven, I am in a relationship that is good and loving and serious enough that I believe it may lead to marriage. Thanks for pointing this stuff out. BYU was once the perfect place to find a great young woman and get married. I completely relate to all you've written; many of us have come to see Mormonism for what it is, and the severe damage it does to human brains. I seriously questioned the future of our relationship based on that fact alone.
Finally, the decision of whom you marry is really between you and God. You're walking into a den of crazy, tbm bishop's daughter, I hate to say it but you should really be contemplative about what you're stepping into. You can't provide that for her so your marriage will be defective from the outset. Think of it as giving him a prompt, and now he gets to give his thoughts. They don't have any time. I have had more than one girl, who I had definite chemsitry with, who the girl really liked me and we had deep and intense conversations as well as a real physichal connection to. I've had friends with spouses that got Fulbrights or grants to study in other countries. I hope to be able to love nurses as I once did for many years. We are indeed in two different places.