Modest dressing is the best policy here. My 16 year old daughter told her Bishop who made that comment, that she thought her dad was great just the way he was. The importance of modesty. I've been married over 4 years to a 1st year GI fellow. Can I add to this extremely old thread. Because Utah mormons are waayyy different than mormons everywhere else. I wouldn't purposefully subject my daughters to that BS. After moving in with him it has become painfully obvious I have a lot of personal improvements to make to meet his minimum expectations as a wife and mother. He hasn't proposed and instead of saving for a ring he is going to use the money to travel to go to his friend's wedding. That being sais, just be honest.
Second, in my experience mormons have been some of the kindest people I've ever had the privilege to know, and they have not lived up to the cult image you describe. Her church is more important to her than you are ever will beplain and simple. I would not want my children raised Mormon which she seems intent on. But I can't figure out whether or not we will ever get to that stage with the current situation and I'm scared of wasting my time waiting for things to get better. But the lies sting some people. But God works in mysterious ways. Note, her mind and TSCC were married first.
I don't drive and we live far away from our family. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. I had tears in my eyes and goosebumps while reading it.
I feel I am not appreciated and valued as a wife. My doctor husband also has a daughter from a previous marriage who he travels to see every other weekend. You have given me the courage to continue to protect my marriage and children. When you make the best choice for you, blessings will follow. She needs to be, and maybe she will get there. I am emotionally mentally and heartily attached to him. I'm beginning to think that it should be a monthly visit no matter what. Earlier I mentioned "Even if the church believes a bunch of crazy nonsense, and she believes it too, I still really like her and would like to see whether we can have some good intellectual conversations about this stuff. He is dealing with the aftermath of a failed suicide while I spend my time trying to keep busy at home.