I wish you the best. Ask her out on dates. Notify me of new comments via email. I know, I know, this is the last thing you want to hear. He made a big deal out of my birthday, holidays, etc. Ask him if he's not seeing you to not commit. Both independent and had the same life goals, family life plans etc. I was the bishops' daughter who went to BYU but didn't go on a mission because I was already married with a 10 month old by my 21st birthday. I don't know if I can do it or if I want to.
Work on myself, not him. I want so much to be supportive, but since my family is gone, I find myself afraid that I will come off as needy if I ask for attention or more affection. Now I try to put myself in his shoes and he has always had a problem standing firm in any decision so its hard for him to say no. When you mix cultural groups you increase the difficulty. Her goal is to make you mormon. In my home ward, the non-member son of one of the members of the Bishopbric was able to stand up with the Priesthood and hold his baby girl while they gave her baby blessing. Just like having children, you don't know what you have until you live it. I am as ambitious as he and he supports that.
March 19, And congratulations, "lovableluciferian" for walking away from the precipice of an untenable relationship. And don't get hung up on all the "lofty doc" stuff. I let her know I'd been reading on LDS. I've been feeling like a single mother for many years. Your girlfriend might, or maybe IS, going through this. I couldn't stop thinking about it all day after reading it. I'm pretty disturbed by the level of dismissiveness seen in many of the comments here. I expect to give up my career once he finishes his training and we start a family. They are just really convinced they are right.
Consider also the evolving perspective of the potential husband. I suggest to run as it will not get better. He would not appreciate my sacrifice of course, because they are often very self-center mind. I would advise you to try to be as understanding as you can of her point of view, because having you world view shattered is very difficult and can take a long time to recover from. What a bozza topic. My faith, while less orthodox, has certainly matured.