We keep "waiting" for it to get easier, and every year it just doesn't. He was my first boyfirend and is an amazing husband. See her good qualities for what they are and see it as a good relationship to remember. If you are both in high school, she may refuse altogether. Doctors want to be with their families and attend events but because of work they just can't. I do not have a problem with nurses. The envy of all of our friends. He will have to wait outside if his children marry in the temple. Know that you are playing a game aka dating mormon girls that has low odds of success. You arent "giving up" anything.
I don't mind staying home because I understand he's tired. This is crunch time and years worth of effort are on the line for him. I would not fear as much as she does, but that is her reality. My husband and I have been married for about 4 years and together since we were undergrads, before he chose medicine as his profession. She was masterful at hiding the cuts and bruises with clothing. But my relationship with him is worth this small sacrifice. Otherwise you risk having an awkward mix between dating and hanging out, which can be uncomfortable for those involved. Narcissism, androgyny, obsession with pop cultureвthe problems with Western women go on and on. I always feel like I am last.
It's a great idea to know where you stand so that you'll be prepared when this comes up in conversation. Mormonism and Non-Mormonism don't link to future lives. I trust him and I highly doubt he's getting "it" from someone else. So you made a wise decision. That being said, no matter what the cause, I wasn't getting what I needed out of it and I had to make the decision to either keep things the status quo or move on. I am exhausted from giving so much of me and I never got much back. Perhaps with a note written on the back. Understand that it's their belief, and make plans for any of the other 6 days instead.
If you think your girlfriend's resistance to being exposed to anything critical of Mormonism sounds cult-like, you are right. Cuddling is not demanding. We have been together for over ten years, but only married for 6 months. Eventually you will get engaged and married and have babies and buy a house together. The odds are definitely not in OPs favor for something like this working for him. Thank you so much for posting your thoughts. There will, in fact, still be churches besides our own. If not, it's better to find out now than to continue with something that isn't satisfying you.