I too wish I had researched more in depth the other doc's wives blogs out there - I would have come up with a much more clever blog title. But it would not change my love for that person. I'm the wife of an intern and we try to make a night each week to go do something, just the two of us. This can be done. We are long distance, and it is hard, because when we are together I spend much of time alone waiting for him to come back from the hospital.
I thought it was beautiful that they included him in the circle, even though he was not a Priesthood holder. A couple of things I run into most is that people assume I am also Mormon. Learning from a young age that any religion will do means that your children almost certainly will ultimately believe that any religion will do. I have been understanding of the demands of his career for many years, but I have come to realized that I'm not happy living this way.
My husband is a medical oncologist who deals primarily with ovarian cancer. If you decide to stay. I would like to ask for some advice from the spouses of Docs or Docs to be on how to handle the house responsibilities. Not in endless discussions of temple marriage, not ever. Anyways, after I was temporarily "crazy" during my masters degree studies, my husband and I began reading the book: I think we had been too busy to invest in our relationship, and in the book were reminded of how much we needed to work for our relationship. And when you give all that you have to support someone else's dream, the money, cars, jewelry, etc mean little, unless you're a gold digger.
Now I feel sadness for losing out because of fear, and a cult mindset. If you are not old enough to consider marriage, you should be careful about having a serious, exclusive relationship. If you don't mind some slightly off-topic advice, I can assure you that you will meet plenty of other beautiful, interesting women going forward. And some will do that. Well, you won't be getting into anything soon. He completely flipped the switch. You will always be second place.
